Who is the first to give a hand when greeting according to etiquette? What does the handshake say? Different types of handshakes and their meaning Why do people shake hands.
The handshake is very important. When you shake hands with someone, the brain releases the confidence hormone oxytocin. You open up for communication, trust each other more and even consider your handshake partner to be a more pleasant person. The same thing happens in his head. But it is important not just to shake hands, but to do it right. How exactly - said Vanessa van Edwards (Vanessa Van Edwards), a psychologist and author of the book "Science of Communication".
1. Hold your palm upright
During the handshake, the palm should be in a vertical position. This puts you and the other person on an equal footing.
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If someone turns your hand over so that you can see your wrist, then he is trying to dominate. Never initiate a handshake from this position yourself. This is how you show your weakness.
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2. Make eye contact
Eye contact is not a direct part of the handshake, but it has a huge impact on the formation of the first impression.
When you look into the eyes of another person, as if you are saying: "I want to communicate with you." Such a look is much more important than the first words when meeting, because it, like a handshake, provokes the production of oxytocin. At a subconscious level, a person is perceived as open, pleasant, convincing and memorable. People will want to see you again and get to know you better.
If there is no eye contact at the first meeting, then for the brain it is like a red rag for a bull. The person becomes annoyed, thinks that something is being hidden from him, and is suspicious of you.
3. Don't Squeeze Too Much
Squeeze your hand tightly: sluggish handshakes are unpleasant and people will consider you an unreliable person who does not want to communicate. But don't do it too hard so you don't make anyone nervous. Too strong handshakes can be intimidating and uncomfortable.
4. Don't hold your hand for too long
The perfect handshake lasts 3-5 seconds. Too long causes bewilderment and embarrassment. Too short and jerky - the feeling that the person is not in the mood for communication at all and wants to leave as soon as possible. But if you are really in a hurry and met on the run, then such a handshake would be appropriate.
5. Don't reach out with a wet hand
Shaking a wet hand is not a pleasant thing, but that's not the only point. Your hands sweat when you're nervous, and being nervous doesn't help you produce good things. Do not extend a wet hand to greet, do not show your excitement to another person. Just in case, carry paper handkerchiefs with you.
6. Evaluate what is best in a particular situation: shake hands or hug
When you meet an old acquaintance, you can shake his hand and even hug him. Everyone will be comfortable. But if it comes to new people in the environment, then you can get into an awkward situation and confuse a person. You need to know in advance what type of greeting would be appropriate.
Watch body language when someone approaches you. If the hands cover the torso or one hand is outstretched, then a handshake is appropriate, but hugging is not worth it.
A handshake between two people can really be much more truthful and informative - even thousands of words.
The habit of shaking hands as a gesture of greeting is present in almost all cultures. But if in ancient times the greeting ritual of different nations could differ significantly, now, in the era of globalization of any processes, including cultural ones, we have received a universal and fairly standard way to greet another person - a handshake.
But only at first glance - this simple action is typical and does not contain any individuality. In fact, there are a lot of handshake options. And depending on the situation, attitude to the interlocutor and the nature of the situation, each of us chooses one way or another to shake hands with another person.
Based on the characteristics of the greeting, one can draw conclusions about how people who greet each other actually relate to each other, what emotions they experience, what they intend to do. Many of these hidden signals are unknown not only to outside observers, but also to the participants in the greeting ritual.
And now we will look at all types and characteristics of handshakes, which can be very useful in life - and when you are trying to understand who is in charge among politicians, how your colleagues, boss or relatives treat you.
Hand position during a handshake
First of all, it is worth starting with the position of the hands during the handshake. With a standard handshake, which has a neutral character, the hands of the greeting participants are in the same position. They are perpendicular to the surface of the earth and the degree of the angle in the region of the elbow joint will be approximately the same for each.
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Such a handshake indicates a neutral attitude of those who greet each other. In any case, the participants of the greeting do not experience any vivid emotions. People shaking hands in this way are prone to compromising, rational behavior (unless their handshake is overly forceful, but more on that later).
The handshake shown in the figure below has a completely different meaning. The hand of one person is turned down, and the second, on the contrary, looks up with the open part. These are examples of classic opposite types of behavior. Member A demonstrates his arrogant attitude towards participant B, which in turn demonstrates a willingness to obey.
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On the left is participant B, on the right is participant A
Position participant A often indicates powerful and authoritarian personalities. In this case, we can say that A shows his authority, his higher social status. This does not always correspond to the actual state of affairs. Rather, desired. After all, people endowed with power and authority do not often demonstrate them - even with such, almost unconscious gestures. So their handshake is often neutral.
This type of handshake often indicates a desire to get something from your interlocutor. Moreover, we are talking mainly about intangible acquisitions. Member A may be aimed at obtaining confirmation of submission, agreement with some opinion or attitude. Position participant B says the opposite. Such a handshake speaks of the demonstrated friendliness, peacefulness, readiness to make concessions, readiness to sacrifice one's interests and resources for the interests and goals of the interlocutor. People who give their hand in this way seek to find the favor of their greeting partner and are ready to step on the throat of their pride for this. This type of handshake is called the "sycophant handshake". The natural enhancers of such a sycophantic position are the outstretched arm, the bent back, the ingratiating smile, the half-bent knees.
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Sometimes we have to deal with the fact that we give a hand for a neutral handshake, and our partner demonstrates participant A's position, seeking to drive us deeper under the plinth and force us to make a "sycophant handshake." What to do in such a situation?
The answer lies in the realm of non-verbal communication. It is necessary to take half a step towards your unfriendly interlocutor, without tearing your hands. This will cause the interlocutor to turn his hand to a normal vertical position. Then you can take a step back and only then stop the handshake. Thus, your interlocutor at an unconscious level will be rebuffed, and this will make him treat you more carefully and respectfully. The effect can be enhanced by a "friendly" pat on the shoulder or by touching the interlocutor's hand with the left hand. Usually, after such contact, an unfriendly interlocutor looks discouraged and does not show any signs of authoritarian behavior.
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Second hand during a handshake
When shaking hands, not only the hand with which you greet is important, but also the left hand (if you are right-handed), since it expresses the attitude towards the interlocutor much more accurately.
Let's start from a neutral position. The left hand is relaxed and hangs along the body. There is no point in interpreting anything here. Normal relationship. Nothing extraordinary should be expected from a person whose left hand is not involved in any way at the time of the handshake.
If the interlocutor begins to connect the left hand to the handshake process, this indicates that the process begins to carry more emotions and more personal relationships. In such cases, likes and dislikes, hidden and explicit intentions, a desire to show sympathy, provide support, get rid of someone else's presence, or a desire to enter into closer relationships are manifested.
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In ordinary communication, the distance at which communication takes place matters. The further away the interlocutor is from you, the more formal, neutral your relationship is. The closer he comes, the warmer feelings he expects. The exception, of course, is the option with a deliberately extremely negative attitude, when we shorten the distance not out of a desire to hug, but out of a desire to strangle the interlocutor.
In a handshake, the distance value remains the same. Especially when we use the left hand in the ritual.
To begin, consider touch in the area of the hand. Far distance.
In this case, touching the hand is a sign that not the closest relationship has been established between the interlocutors. Most likely, they are in the nature of one-time social transactions. The interlocutor, touching with his free hand the brush of another person, is not currently in close relations with him, they feel distance.
Now let's take a closer look at the different types of touches.
1. During a handshake, your interlocutor grabs your hand with his left hand. Such a position is called "grip grip".
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Although such capture is perceived mostly negatively, it nevertheless has a positive meaning. Thus, the interlocutor expresses his best disposition. Depending on the strength of the handshake, one can also talk about the delight of the meeting, which overwhelms a person. The stronger they shake your hand, holding it in a "glove", the greater the joy they experience from communicating with you. Such a handshake is often awarded to pop and movie stars.
Additional markers confirming this mood are the distance and inclination of the interlocutor's body.
A long distance speaks of a cautious, one might even say touching attitude. But if the hand fell into such a grip, and the interlocutor approached a very short distance, this means that some kind of preferences are expected from you: acceptance, mutual disposition, reciprocal signs of attention.
If, after such a handshake, your interlocutor brings his palms folded together to his face, as if covering his lower part, we can say that he experiences incredible delight from the meeting.
2. Palm from below
In this case, the interlocutor's left hand is like a platform on which your hands rest when shaking hands. This situation speaks of an unconscious desire to provide support, help, console, help with advice. In fact, this gesture demonstrates a willingness to help. If you are faced with this position of the hands, no doubt you can ask for help from your interlocutor - he will help.
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3. Palm on top
The palm of the left hand, covering your hand from above at the moment of shaking hands, means an expression of care and participation.
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This is almost always true when the handshake is between people of different genders or ages. At the same time, if you observe such a position of hands during a handshake between two men of approximately the same age and social status, then the situation can be completely opposite.
Also in this case, you need to pay attention to the context of the situation. If a person puts his palm on top immediately during a handshake, then, probably, we are talking about expressing deep positive feelings towards the interlocutor. If this gesture is formed as a response to any words or movements that have already arisen in the course of the conversation (and the hands do not break contact), then most likely this indicates an attempt to show one's ego, a desire to show who is in charge here.
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The handshake is done in the manner of equal partners, but there are two nuances that point to the superiority of Obama. 1. With his left hand, Obama pats Yatsenyuk on the shoulder. This is a gesture of intrusion into the personal space of a communication partner. Yatsenyuk does not make similar attempts, which only strengthens the effect of Obama's influence. 2. Yatsenyuk's back is so tense that it seems that he stretched out in front of Obama like a rookie in front of a sergeant. In general, the photograph demonstrates Yatsenyuk's tension and his recognition of the higher status of his interlocutor. However, one should not get carried away with interpretations and argue that Yatsenyuk is demonstrating some signs of submission. There is respect, there is tension in the pose, there is tightness, but there is no subordination in this photo
In addition, such a gesture can also occur as a result of a reaction to the unfriendly behavior of the interlocutor or his intrusion into the intimate zone.
Is there a difference between the position of the palm below and above? Undoubtedly. A person who places his palm on the bottom is more inclined to provide any help and support that you ask for. But the person whose palm is on top usually already understands perfectly well what exactly you will need and useful at this moment and in this situation. That is, the difference between the location of the palms reflects the presence or absence of an initiative position. The palm below is a sign of acceptance of your initiative. The palm on top is a sign of readiness to take your own initiative.
This is not always the case. Body position can turn this interpretation on its head.
Touching the interlocutor. Close range
A person can touch the interlocutor with his left hand both in the area of the forearm and in the area of \u200b\u200bthe elbow joint. And in some cases, we place our hand on the shoulder or even put an arm around the back of the one we greet.
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This is where the laws of distance come into play. The closer to the body is the place where the hand of your interlocutor is fixed, the greater the need for communication he feels. Touching the forearm and touching the shoulder have different degrees of expression of those feelings. The most extreme degree is, of course, hugs. Well, or patting the interlocutor on the back.
Do not forget that hugs can also be of the nature of subcultural features. Young people of athletic appearance who greet each other with strong hugs do not always feel too warm feelings for each other. Most likely, this type of greeting is a consequence of their own rituals. They are so accepted. In any case, to assess the relationship of people by their handshake, one should take into account the context of the situation, the influence of cultural and social characteristics.
The strength and duration of the handshake
In addition to the handshake itself, several other factors are important.
1. The power of the handshake. The stronger they shake your hand, the more emotional energy the interlocutor is ready to pour into communication. At the same time, a sluggish handshake is not yet a sign of hostility. Maybe the person just doesn't feel well. And a strong handshake, respectively, is not always a sign of a complacent disposition. The strength of compression indicates only the willingness to spend a certain amount of muscle energy during communication with you. But what will be the nature of the application of this energy depends on completely different factors.
2. Duration of contact. There is a direct correlation with the time that the interlocutor is willing to spend communicating with you. The longer he shakes your hand, the longer the conversation he expects. The shorter the handshake, the faster the opponent is ready to "resolve" all issues and do other, more important things. Often a short handshake indicates the desire of your interlocutor to quickly move on to resolving the issue for which you met. In this case, brevity will indicate a reluctance to waste time on formal procedures.
Interpretation errors
When you analyze non-verbal communication, you understand that not a single gesture and not a single sign is one hundred percent reliable. Moreover, sometimes the same gesture in different situations can have an absolutely opposite meaning.
In order to make fewer mistakes in the interpretation of gestures (and it will not be possible to completely get rid of them), you always need to make allowances for the context of the situation, the characteristics of the culture and social group, and the combination of gesture with posture and facial expressions. But the key features of the handshake in most cases remain unchanged.
The main thing:
1. The handshake expresses the attitude towards the interlocutor. And if a person can lie in words, then through a handshake, the truth is much more likely to be correctly interpreted.
2. Handshake distance means only how much they intend to contact you. A short distance does not necessarily mean a positive location.
3. The stronger the handshake, the greater the desire to make contact. And the more emotions overwhelm your interlocutor.
4. The main signs of a formal handshake are: long distance, sluggish handshake, short hand contact time. This indicates a lack of interest in communication.
5. If the left hand is used in a handshake, this is a sign that the interlocutor puts more personal relationship into contact with you than in other cases and with other people.
I also suggest watching and trying to analyze the video of real and interesting handshakes of President Petro Poroshenko with Catherine Ashton, Vladimir Putin, Nursultan Nazarbayev and Alexander Lukashenko in Minsk - using only acquired knowledge.
And now - check the conclusions drawn. So, Ashton expresses his support for Poroshenko by performing a “glove” handshake gesture, covering the palm of the Ukrainian president from above. Poroshenko shows a positive attitude towards Ashton by smiling, but the time of eye contact with her is very short. Before the handshake with Ashton is over, his eyes are already on Putin.
The handshake with Putin is defiantly cold. Too sharp, theatrical transition from a smile addressed to Ashton, to tense walking jaws and a petrified look addressed to Putin.
In the next second, the tension in Poroshenko's posture begins to subside and the duty handshake with Nazarbayev is already taking place under the auspices of a slight smile. And Lukashenka gets all the emotional stash from Poroshenko - both a smile, and a turn of the body shoulder to shoulder, and a caring "glove" when shaking hands.
The conclusion is that Poroshenko's coldness towards Putin is feigned, emphasized, somewhat exaggerated. And this was done in contrast to the smiles of other participants in the meeting, specifically to emphasize the negative attitude towards him.
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There are traditions that are observed, but they somehow don’t think about the origin, although history could bring some clarity to the meaning of this or that ritual. Such habitual actions include a male handshake at a meeting, parting, sealing a deal, mutual similarity of opinions, approval of actions, etc.
The origin of the “handshake” dates back to ancient times, when it was necessary to demonstrate to the participant in communication one’s partner’s safety without long prefaces. The outstretched hand with the palm turned up convinced the counterpart of the absence of weapons and generally hostile intentions. The knights complicated this ritual, but retained its meaning.
Contact was not always made with the help of the hands, there was a time when the hand was applied to each other's wrist or belt. The goal is still the same, pragmatic, to make sure there are no hidden weapons. Gradually, the handshake became a common sign of greeting between men, a symbol of purity of thoughts and intentions.
Women who historically did not participate in the previous stages of the formation of the ritual were excluded from it. Pants, the expansion and redistribution of roles in public and business life, did not extend this gesture of "good will" to the female environment. Etiquette provides for certain rules regarding the handshake, violation of which can lead to undesirable consequences.
The elder in age and position should extend his hand, the response gesture should not be accompanied by a pause, indecision, which can be regarded as unwillingness to participate in a non-verbal dialogue. Do not shake hands while sitting without removing gloves, contact should not last longer than 2-3 seconds. Cultural nuances are possible.
In Muslim countries, this type of greeting between men and women is unacceptable. With the penetration of customs, for example, from Poland, in relation to ladies, a handshake can be replaced by a kiss on the hand - a kind of "high style" gesture. Latin American culture introduced the custom of exchanging kisses and hugs instead of shaking hands not only between women, but also between men.
In Russian tradition, it is not customary to stretch out hands to each other over the threshold. This is explained by the fact that in ancient times, dead relatives were buried under the threshold in the hope that their spirit would protect the home from misfortune, and clasping hands over the ashes could disturb the peace of the dead.
The theory of "six handshakes" is interesting, according to which all people are connected with each other by an intersecting chain of acquaintances, consisting of 5 participants. Psychologists say that the strength and manner of shaking hands can determine the character of a person with a high degree of certainty.
I wonder how to find out if that brunette at the window likes me? .. And how to let that pretty woman know about my sympathy? .. Easy! Here is our New Year's manual on body language and facial expressions. Just watch closely
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More than 70% of information about other people we receive through the so-called non-verbal channels. These include gestures, facial expressions, behavior. True, we do not always immediately understand what this or that gesture is talking about. But non-verbal signs can help us convey to another person what we are embarrassed to say directly in words. Knowing sign language is very important if you want to excel in the art of flirting. You can work out in the coming days - during the New Year's parties.
On the doorstep
The first signs of sympathy can be seen already when meeting. Scientists say that four seconds is enough for us to become interested in another person. And then the interest that has arisen either develops and strengthens, or dissipates. It is important not to fuss if you notice a manifestation of sympathy for you. As a rule, it is an acute desire to please that leads to the opposite effect. Here are the signs that you like it.
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A long look straight into your eyes - a person wants to look into your soul and understand: what if he has a like-minded person in front of him?
Having met his eyes, he sharply looks away and deliberately looks to the side, while occasionally squinting at you: this person really liked you outwardly. But he is waiting for a response from you. Most likely, he will expect from you the initiative to start a conversation. If you do nothing, he may be the first to attack. But if you continue not to clearly show your attitude, he will be very upset and even disappointed.
Looks and blinks often - another sign of sympathy that has arisen. Scientists have found that the more we like a person, the more the mucous membrane of the eye dries when looking at him. The more we blink accordingly. (Tears of emotion at the sight of someone - this is already from another opera.)
Handshake
If a woman gives her hand palm down, she seems to be hinting at a kiss on the hand. This is both a manifestation of coquetry and an invitation to light flirting.
But if a man gives his hand with his palm down, do not rush to kiss her, this means that he would like to completely subordinate you to himself, and maybe even crush you with authority. In this case, you can simply cover his hand from above with your palm. This will be an unspoken invitation to a love rivalry.
Friendship handshake. If a woman gives a hand to a man like that, then she sees in him an equal partner. If a man is a woman, he likes her.
The manifestation of an increased desire to please and gain confidence is the girth of your palm with both hands, like a glove. If a man takes a woman's hand like that, he really wants to enlist her sympathy. Especially if he holds her hand a little longer. True, some women can be scared. So don't overdo it.
At the table
The feast is a great place for easy flirting. A caught eye, a correctly understood gesture - the whole game! Some people get so carried away that they forget about food. Here's what some of the details mean.
If a man, looking at a woman, touches his collar or straightens his tie, he really liked this woman.
Women in this case begin to touch their hair. Some put on a whole show. Now there is a strand, then a curl here, then it is thrown back, then it is covered with hair. So they attract the attention of the object they like.
Watch your hands! A man shows a woman open palms - very good. And the woman demonstrates her wrist in every way: she starts playing with a bracelet, touching her earlobe, hair, or fiddling with the jewelry around her neck.
The way you sit can also say a lot.
A man seems to open up in front of a woman he likes: his chest is like a wheel, his legs are slightly apart and firmly rest on the floor. A clear sexual signal is legs wide apart and an excessive demonstration of confidence with the help of arms half-bent at the elbows. This should be understood as follows: “I can protect, I am a strong male!”
A woman, thirsty for passion, sits down with her back arched and her legs crossed. If she just wants to arouse sympathy, then she sits down like a proper girl, slightly tilting her ankles together to the side. A woman who wants both of them beautifully folds her legs into an "X", bending at the waist and leaning on the back of a chair.
On the dance floor
It is worth watching a dancing person, and you will understand a lot about him, even without being an experienced psychologist.
The man stuck his thumbs in his belt - this is already a clear sexual challenge.
A woman, if she wants to show that the challenge has been accepted, looses her hair or changes her hairstyle to a looser one. Often runs her hands through her hair and shakes her head like a mane. Even if she has short hair.
Does the woman look askance and smile, or does she not look away for a long time? This is also a good sign. Men in such cases glance over the body of a woman from head to toe and back.
When a woman strokes her body in a dance, she seems to send a signal: “I want you to do this!” (It is only important that this signal is deciphered by the one to whom it is addressed, and not by all the party participants in a row. - Approx. ed.)
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It takes 4 - 6 seconds to make a first impression.
7 seconds - this is how long an eye-to-eye look lasts, which immediately brings you closer.
55% of success in love and career depends on nonverbals. For example, that's why Americans smile all the time.
JOKE ON THE TOPIC
The boy gestured that his name was Juan.
PSYCHOLOGICAL WORKSHOP
How to signal?
Advice for men
Nothing turns women on like light touches. Not just anyone, of course, but the man who has already aroused sympathy. Pass her or ask her to pass you some small items like a lighter, a cup, a Christmas ball, etc. The touch of fingers and palms is very erotic. Passing by, you can, as it were, in a friendly way. In a conversation, agreeing with her point of view, you can touch her wrist or forearm.
Watching her from afar, but in such a way that she notices it, is a powerful means of influencing a woman. When you meet her eyes, you need to smile a little. Sympathy from this woman is guaranteed to you.
advice to women
An open natural smile, sparkling eyes - this is enough for a man to catch your signal and prepare for an attack.
Walk right in front of him: a straight back, a smooth, narrow step, in which the hips sway slightly, and the heel of one foot is brought over the toe of the other. It would be nice not to fall at the same time, of course. Although it is possible to fall, it is desirable that he just had time to pick it up. A woman who falls into the hands of a man is considered saved and immediately becomes very desirable (tested on the personal experience of the author of the article!).
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Here is what Alexander MONOGAMOV, the leader of the social movement Frivolous Russia, told us:
Although I am not a psychologist, I would like to expand the information a bit regarding what some of the gestures of men in dance mean.
1. He begins to squat, making quick lunges to the sides with his legs and spreading his arms at the same time. By this he wants to say: “I myself am not a local, I come from Ukraine, I respect traditions, I will love the woman strongly, but I will also ask her in case of anything to the fullest.”
2. First, he claps his hands for a long time, then, flashing his eyes furiously, he shouts: “Assa!” - and jumps into the middle of the circle. By this he wants to say: “First we will play a wedding in Moscow, and then we will go to my relatives in the mountains. We'll kidnap you a little there, but we'll get you back soon, don't worry. We will live with you in Moscow.
3. He jumps mischievously back and forth, holding his thumbs in the slits of his vest. By this he wants to say: “Everything was fine in the film “Liquidation”, but for some reason they didn’t show our good Jewish dances there?”
TEST "KP"
How well do you understand people without words?
1. How do you greet good friends:
a) joyfully shout "Hi!"; b) a hearty handshake; c) lightly hug each other; d) quite restrained; d) kiss on the cheeks.
2. Which part of your face is the most expressive:
a) forehead b) eyebrows; in the eyes; d) nose; e) lips; e) corners of the mouth.
3. When you walk past a shop window where you can see your reflection, what do you pay attention to the most:
a) for clothes b) a hairstyle; c) walking d) posture; d) nothing.
4. If someone in a conversation or laughing covers his mouth with his hand, what does this mean in your opinion:
a) he has something to hide; b) he has ugly teeth; c) he is ashamed of something.
5. If your interlocutor looks away, then he ...
a) lying; b) not sure of himself; c) collected and calm.
6. You can recognize the criminal by appearance:
a) yes; b) no; c) I don't know.
7. A man approaches to get acquainted with a woman. Why does he do it?
a) The man must take the first step. b) The woman made it clear that she would like to be spoken to. c) He is brave enough not to be afraid of being rejected.
8. You have the impression that the words of a person do not correspond to his gestures and facial expressions. What do you believe more?
a) words
b) gestures and facial expressions; c) it will arouse suspicion.
9. Pop stars on stage constantly make gestures with obvious erotic overtones. What is behind this, in your opinion?
a) trickery; b) this is how they turn on the audience; c) it is their sincere expression of their own mood.
Calculate scores using the table.
RESULT
0 - 9 points. You do not attach almost any importance to facial expressions and gestures in real life. This is either a Chinese letter for you, or you just think that you do not need it. Nevertheless, observation has not yet prevented anyone. Train. Otherwise, you can miss the “surrender signal” from some pleasant individual of the opposite sex.
10 - 18 points. You enjoy watching others. You understand sign language more often, but sometimes belatedly. You tend to trust words more. Rely more on your intuition.
19 - 27 points. You have excellent intuition, you understand other people well at the level of non-verbal communication. You have developed observation and flair. But sometimes you rely too much on your opinion, giving less importance to words. This may cause an error. Although in general your judgments about people can be trusted.
Update date: 03/16/2018
Most often, it is with a handshake that the greeting ceremony ends. In the distant past, the ritual showed peaceful intentions - after all, there are no weapons in the hands. For a handshake, the right hand is usually served, this rule also applies to left-handers. However, if the right hand is occupied or damaged, you can file, after apologizing, the left hand. In this case, the free hand should not lie in the pocket.
Offering a hand, you can not keep it relaxed, as if handing a frog to hold. But you should not squeeze your partner’s hand with all your might, shaking it in the air. Give your hand confidently, shake - calmly, gently and briefly.
You should not shake the palm with your two hands, as well as give only the tips of your fingers for shaking.
In case you are, he should be the first to lend a hand.
Man and woman
When a man and a woman meet, the lady decides whether or not to shake hands. Etiquette prescribes the first to give a hand to a woman. Also, when meeting people of different ages, the initiative should come from older comrades. If a lady or a person older than you in position or age decides to portray a slight bow and verbally greet you, you should not insist on a handshake. However, if the hand extended to you is left hanging in the air, then this will be regarded as an insult.
Having met a friend in the company of other people, it will be polite to shake hands with each of them.
In the event that you meet with a group of people, including your acquaintance, the rules of good manners require that you shake hands with everyone present.
On the street
On the street, etiquette requires men to take off their gloves, but women do not have to do this. When shaking hands, both hands must be without gloves, or both of them are wearing them. If your counterpart has already pulled off the glove, you will have to follow suit. But this rule of etiquette does not apply to mittens: they must be removed before shaking hands for everyone.
In room
Upon entering the room, first of all, take off your gloves, and only then greet those present. When leaving, it is also acceptable to shake handsif the company was small. A person who systematically walks around the living room and shakes hands with everyone looks rather ridiculous. Also, do not go to say hello across the room with an outstretched hand. With a large crowd of people, it is enough to say hello or say goodbye to everyone with a slight bow.
How couples greet each other
There is a routine for couples who greet each other with a handshake to avoid crossed hands.
At the same time, first the ladies to the right of their companions shake hands with each other. Then they give hands to men. The greeting ends with a male handshake. If the ladies are standing opposite each other, then this position further simplifies the greeting: women and men shake hands at the same time. Then one of the men walks around his companion from behind and shakes the hand of the lady extended to him.
It is worth remembering cultural peculiarities, where a handshake between a woman and a man is impossible in principle, because. touching people of the opposite sex is one of the strictest taboos.
Also, you should not abuse the handshake in case of frequent meetings during the day, for example, at work. It doesn't make sense, and it looks a bit silly.